Lap Dancing Stag Do

A night at a lap dancing club is one of the oldest stag traditions going, and a strip club stag do is still a popular way to finish a big night out. It isn’t for every group, though, so the first job is making sure it suits yours.

Most packages include entry to a club and sometimes a reserved area or a drink on arrival, usually as part of a wider night out. I’d treat it as the last stop of the evening rather than the main event.

This matters more than anything else on the page. Some grooms love the idea. Some would rather eat a hat. Some have promised their other half it won’t happen. Ask him quietly, well before you book, and respect the answer. Your job is to give him a great weekend, not a row when he gets home.

Think about the rest of the group too. If the dads, the future father-in-law or anyone else would rather skip it, plan it late so they can peel off to the hotel or another bar without any fuss or mickey-taking. A good best man makes it easy to say no.

• Book ahead. Get on the guest list or book a table, especially for a big group on a Saturday. Turning up with fifteen lads unannounced is a good way to spend the night on the pavement.
• Dress smart. Most clubs have a dress code. Shirts and proper shoes are a safe bet, and fancy dress or matching stag t-shirts often won’t get past the door, so bring a change.
• Know the rules. Clubs are strict about behaviour, and the rules are there to protect the dancers. Hands to yourself, no photos, and do what the staff say. Break the rules and the whole group could be shown out.
• Set a budget. Drinks are pricey and dances cost extra. Agree a spending limit before you go in and leave the cards you don’t want to see the next morning back at the hotel.
• Don’t arrive wrecked. Door staff turn away groups who are too far gone. Pace yourselves through the evening.
• Look after the stag. Keep an eye on him, his wallet and his phone. Make sure he gets back to the hotel with all three.

It works best at the end of a bigger evening. Start with a pub crawl or a few hands at the casino, eat properly, and head to the club late.

If the stag would rather give it a miss, a comedy night or a life drawing class still gets plenty of laughs, without the awkward conversation at home. For more help planning the whole weekend, have a look at our stag do organising advice.