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By Oliver Lucas Oliver at a glanceBest man three times, at three very different weddingsFounded iamthebestman in 2011Quoted in Esquire as a professional speechwriterTalked best man duties on the BBCMystery-shopped the UK’s stag do companiesMore about Oliver Updated 7 min read

Last updated: 27 October 2026

These terms and conditions (“terms”) apply to your use of iamthebestman.co.uk (the “website”), run by Iamthebestman (“we”, “us”, “our”). By using the website you agree to these terms. If you don’t agree, please don’t use the website.

1. About the website

Iamthebestman is a free resource for best men and everyone else who has to give a wedding speech. We publish advice on best man duties, example speeches, speech guides and courses, stag do ideas, destination guides and a stag do price comparison. We also sell a paid wedding speech writing service, a speech editing service and an AI best man speech; section 4A covers those. We may update, change or remove any part of the website at any time without notice.

2. Using our content

Everything on the website, including text, speeches, guides, images, videos, logos and design, belongs to us or the people who license it to us, and is protected by copyright.

  • You may read, print and download content for your own personal, non-commercial use. That includes using our example speeches and speech downloads as inspiration for, or part of, a speech you give yourself.
  • You may not republish, sell, rent or redistribute our content, copy it to another website, or use it for commercial purposes without our written permission.

3. Information and advice

Our guides, ideas and speech material are general information for entertainment and guidance only. We try to keep everything accurate and up to date but we don’t guarantee that it is complete, current or suitable for your circumstances. You’re responsible for how you use it, including judging what is appropriate for your audience on the day.

4. Stag do price comparison and third-party providers

  • Our comparison and package listings show packages, activities and prices offered by independent stag do providers. We are not a travel agent or tour operator and we do not sell, arrange or book any package ourselves.
  • Any booking you make is a contract between you and the provider, on the provider’s own terms. Please read their terms, cancellation policy and any financial protection details before you book.
  • Prices, availability and package details come from the providers, can change at any time and are shown as a guide only. Always check the final price and details with the provider before booking.
  • If you send an enquiry about a package through our website, we pass the details you give us to the relevant provider so they can respond to you.
  • We aren’t responsible for the services, acts or omissions of any provider.

4A. Our wedding speech writing service

This section applies when you buy a speech from us through our wedding speech writing service: a written speech (best man, groom, bride, father of the bride, mother of the bride or maid of honour), our speech editing service, or the AI best man speech. If anything here conflicts with the rest of these terms, this section wins for those purchases.

What you are buying

  • A written speech. A bespoke speech written for you by one of our writers, based on your answers to our questionnaire and a call with your writer.
  • Speech editing. A full review of a speech you have written, covering structure, length, flow and humour. Your speech should be in a developed state rather than a few notes. We can also edit a speech you have generated with AI.
  • The AI best man speech. A best man speech generated from your answers to a set of questions, typically around 1,000 words. It is produced by a machine and does not have the nuance of a speech written by one of our writers.

Prices and payment

  • Our prices are shown on the wedding speech writing service page at the time you order.
  • Writing a speech takes time and the result is our intellectual property until it is paid for. You pay in full before we send you the full version of your speech. If payment is not made, we will not send the speech.

How it works and when you get your speech

  • After you order, we send you a questionnaire about you, the people involved and the moments you have shared. Your answers are the raw material for your speech, so the more detail you give, the better it will be.
  • Your writer will normally call you to go through your answers, share early thoughts on structure and agree a delivery date with you. If the wedding is some way off we can be more relaxed; if it is this weekend, we will tell you honestly whether we can do it.
  • We deliver your speech by the date we agree with you. It is your responsibility to give us accurate information and to reply to us in good time. If you are late with your answers, the delivery date may move.

Amendments

  • Amendments to a written speech are included right up to the wedding day. If you think of a must-include story after the speech is written, get back in touch and we will work it in.
  • If you are not happy with the first draft, the amendment process can go as far as starting again from scratch.

Refunds

  • Written speeches. If, after the amendment process, you are still unhappy with your speech, we will give you a full refund.
  • Speech editing. If we have not made significant improvements to your speech, we will refund the fee.
  • To ask for a refund, email oliver@iamthebestman.co.uk before the wedding day. We refund to the original payment method.

Your right to cancel

As a consumer buying online, you normally have 14 days after you order to cancel. If you ask us to start work on your speech within those 14 days and then cancel, we may charge you for the work already done. Once your finished speech or AI speech has been delivered to you, you can no longer cancel under this right, but our refund promise above still applies. This does not affect your statutory rights.

Your answers and your speech

  • We use your questionnaire answers only to write your speech, and handle them in line with our Privacy Policy.
  • Once you have paid, the speech is yours to deliver at your wedding and keep. We will not publish it, or the stories in it, without your permission.
  • You are responsible for what you say on the day. If you include something we have advised against, that is your call.

Our liability for the service

Section 10 applies to the service as well. In addition, if we are liable to you in connection with a speech you have bought, our total liability is limited to the price you paid for it.

Some links on the website, including links to stag do providers and products, are affiliate links. If you click one and then book or buy, we may earn a commission at no extra cost to you. This helps keep the website free. We may also show advertising. Affiliate relationships and advertising don’t affect our editorial opinions.

The website links to websites run by other people. We don’t control those websites and aren’t responsible for their content, availability, products, services or privacy practices.

7. Things you send us

If you send us a speech, story, comment or other material, or post it on the website:

  • you confirm it is your own work (or you have permission to share it) and that it isn’t unlawful, offensive, defamatory or in breach of anyone else’s rights;
  • you give us a free, non-exclusive, worldwide licence to publish, edit and use it on the website and in connection with Iamthebestman;
  • we may edit, decline or remove it at any time without giving a reason.

8. Acceptable use

You must not misuse the website. That includes trying to gain unauthorised access to it, introducing viruses or malicious code, scraping or copying content in bulk, sending spam, or using the website in any way that is unlawful or harms us or anyone else.

9. Availability

The website’s free content is provided free of charge on an “as is” and “as available” basis. We don’t guarantee that it, or any content on it, will always be available or free from errors.

10. Our liability

Nothing in these terms limits or excludes our liability for death or personal injury caused by our negligence, for fraud, or for anything else that cannot be limited or excluded by law.

Otherwise, we are not liable for any loss or damage arising from your use of, or inability to use, the website or any content on it, or from your use of any third-party website, product or service, including any stag do package booked with a provider. In particular, we are not liable for any loss of profit, business or opportunity, or for any indirect or consequential loss.

11. Privacy and cookies

We handle personal information in line with our Privacy Policy, and use cookies as described in our Cookie Policy.

12. Changes to these terms

We may update these terms from time to time. The version on this page is the one that applies, so please check it whenever you use the website.

13. Law

These terms are governed by the law of England and Wales, and the courts of England and Wales have jurisdiction over any dispute, although if you live elsewhere in the UK you may also bring proceedings in your local courts.

14. Contact us

If you have any questions about these terms, please email oliver@iamthebestman.co.uk or contact us.

Best men who got a hand

How the speech service works
I was expecting a few weeks wait but he turned the speech around in 48 hours… I now have every confidence going into the wedding and can finally relax. Thank you so much, you have been a true life saver.
Johnny Howard used the speech writing service
From inception to conclusion the process took 48 hours. It was just what I wanted, a cross between part serious/part humour… I would use his service again without hesitation.
Jack Samson used the speech writing service