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Best Man Duties, Stag Do Ideas & Best Man Speeches
Written by people who've actually done the job. Whatever stage you're at, from the stag to the speech, start here.
- Founded by Oliver, best man three times
- Every writer has been a best man
- Free library of example speeches
So you've been asked to be best man
Five things stand between you and a job well done. Take them in order, or jump to the one keeping you up at night.
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Understand the job
What a best man actually does, and when.
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Plan the stag
Where to go, what to do, who to book with.
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Sort the details
Suits, rings, timings and the to-do list.
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Write the speech
Structure, examples and jokes that land.
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Deliver it
Nerves, practice and standing up on the day.
Where's the stag do heading?
Pick a destination, an activity, or both. We'll line up packages from UK stag companies so you can compare before you book.
Where stag groups actually go
Independent guides: what each place is good for, what to do and who runs packages there.
Or start with what you want to do
Nail the speech
From "I have no idea what I'm doing" to standing up and smashing it. Work through it in order.
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Read real examples
Speeches for brothers, old friends and joint best men.
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Get the structure
The best man speech guide, start to finish.
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Borrow some jokes
55 jokes and one-liners, grouped by theme.
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Make it funny
How to get laughs without losing the room.
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Conquer the nerves
What to do when your hands start shaking.
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Take the free course
Free public speaking course for best men.
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Fill in a short questionnaire and our writers, who've all been best men, will write a speech that sounds like you.
Best men who got a hand
How the speech service worksI was expecting a few weeks wait but he turned the speech around in 48 hours… I now have every confidence going into the wedding and can finally relax. Thank you so much, you have been a true life saver.
From inception to conclusion the process took 48 hours. It was just what I wanted, a cross between part serious/part humour… I would use his service again without hesitation.
Kit out the stag, the groom and yourself
The stuff we'd actually buy: stag accessories, gifts for the groom and the finishing touches for the big day.
Best man ×3Why iamthebestman exists
“I've also been a best man three times myself so I know what you're going through!”
Each experience was different, but one thing remained the same – there was no single place he could go to access all the information he needed. Not a single resource that could give great, non-biased advice. And so, iamthebestman was born.
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